Tips for Dealing with a Death of a Loved One

Hi Guys, today’s post is giving tips for dealing with a death of a loved one. This is obviously a very sensitive topic and due to the sensitivity of it, it has become a topic that we would prefer to avoid. However, we have all experienced a tragic death within our family or friends at some stage in our lives, so we know how painful it can be. That is why I have put together some tips to help you deal with a death of a loved one.




1. Let your emotions be expressed and released.

Don’t stop yourself from having a good cry if you feel one coming on. Keeping it in can sometimes be even more painful. Don’t worry if listening to particular songs or doing certain things is painful, this is completely normal as it can bring back memories of the person that you lost. It’s natural to feel this way, after a while, it becomes less painful.

The only way to overcome grief is to move through it. The person who avoids grieving could eventually suffer from some form of depression or even from physical problems. Fully experiencing the pain, for example through tears, can provide some form of relief.


2. Adjusting to an environment without your loved one

Your loved one can never be replaced and will always hold a special place in your heart and in your families. After a death it can feel that life will never be the same again. Instead of thinking how you must live a life without them, think how you must adjust to an environment without them.

You will always have their memories with you in your life. It is a new environment without them but you will always have the memories of the old environment with you, that is something that can’t be taken away.




3. Ways to honour your loved ones.

After a death, it can be comforting to honour that person in some way. Possibilities include donating to a favourite charity of the deceased, framing photos of fun times, passing on a family name to a baby or planting a garden in memory. What you choose is up to you. The purpose is to give you a chance to honour that unique relationship in a way that feels right to you.


4. Talk about your loved one

Don’t be afraid to talk about the person who has died. People in your life might not mention their name because they don’t want to upset you. But by not talking to anyone about your loved one, it can make you feel isolated.

So, dont be afraid to include them in conversations if you want to. It will highlight to people that you actually want to continue talking about them and including them in your conversations. It can help you feel that their memory is being kept alive.




5. Find creative ways to keep yourself busy  

Even if you’re not typically a creative person, doing something to express your feelings can help you deal with your grief. Make a scrapbook or photo album commemorating your lost loved one. Write a poem, essay, or short story about your relationship with that person, this can be a really good one for young people especially.


6. Talking to someone

After a death I think going speaking to a professional can be a really good option. With bereavement comes mixed feelings and sometimes these emotions can be extremely hard to deal with. That’s why speaking to a professional who will be able to guide you through the grief stage can be the best thing. Having that support behind you can also give you a sense of security as grief can be an extremely vulnerable time.



Niamh-Psychotherapist xx


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